april so soon

I can go months without posting. I have things I think about posting and then time slips by. Sometimes the method of getting images ready to upload is daunting. It's my perfectionist tendency.
Today, preparing to go home for my grandmother's funeral has worn me out. Every little frustration has been amplified.
Sometimes emotion floods through me like a flash flood in the desert: without warning a wall of water cavorts down a dry dusty arroyo.
I'm not posting a picture here. Later.
I think grief is like the parable of the lost coin. I've read that grief has a searching quality to it - like how a person might return again and again to an old spot. Searching for lost time, a lost feeling, a lost love.
In the parable Christ is saying that the kingdom of God is like this woman searching for a lost coin. The text in Luke 15 focuses on the woman searching for a coin that is lost and rejoicing in her rediscovery of it: likening such a discovery to the repentance of an individual. But the coin doesn't repent. It's lostness is not something it desires to change - it is the action of this woman that changes the state of the coin. So what is the subject of repentance in this parable and who repents. Could it be said that repentance issues from searching rather than lostness? Not a parable of a lost coin, per se, but of a searching woman?
While she is searching, she is spurred on by the grief of having lost. What have I lost? How could I have been so careless? She asks. She is frustrated, turning over furniture, clearing off shelves, retracing steps. She takes out and puts back in all the items of her house and her day. Does she find it "right where I left it?" Does she wonder, "How did it get there?"
She desires to feel complete again. To put this piece with its companion pieces. But does it, returned to its place, disappear into the crowd, losing its "lost" status. It becomes simply found. Desire is no longer focused on it.
Her joy is not in the coin, but in the finding. She's found her coin, which is rejoined to the other coins. But the coins themselves are just items of the household.
Parables do not lend themselves to easy correspondences.
The Kingdom of Heaven is like a lost coin. The Kingdom of Heaven is like a searching woman. The Kingdom of Heaven is like something we've lost. We are like a woman, tearing her house apart, retracing her steps, for a lost coin. We are like lost coins: we don't know that we're lost. We don't miss our companion coins. We don't miss being part of a collection. Under a floor board or stuck in a book, we're content.
Jesus in the temple knows exactly where he is, and wonders at his parents frantic searching. "I wasn't lost; I was right here," he says. Smart alleck.
Who repents in this parable? Why is repentance like this? Or instead of repentance: whose mind is changed - whose perceptions are altered? Or if not "metanoia" then the hebrew "shuv" - a turning. Did the woman turn and there it was? Did the coin find the woman? Like the coin in the mouth of the fish Peter caught - "to pay taxes for thee and for me."
A woman has 10 silver pieces and obsesses over one she lost. Her mind is filled with what she lost, rather than what she has. She has plenty. She has enough.
What was she thinking when she realized that she'd lost it? At some point she was at peace, content, and only on examination, perhaps pulling out her purse, hearing the comforting jingling of metal on metal, does it strike her that one is missing. Or perhaps she's putting them away and her grip is uncertain on one and she watches in dismay as it rolls away and too slow to respond, she doesn't notice where it went.
If she needs all ten, she is fucked. She has been careless. She lived in a false sense of security. Now she must hunt. Had she planned a nice evening? Had she looked forward to buying food, drink, a gift?
Not "I was lost but now I'm found" but "I lost and now I've found." The Kingdom of Heaven is not a passive state but an active state of searching. The first step is the shock of discovery: what I thought I had is gone! What is that? Our grief is where I consciousness of loss is. Our grief is where we begin searching. "I think I lost it" Lucinda Williams sings, "Nothing can replace it, no memory can erase it." Who knows if I've remembered her lyric right. Still.
Might this parable be about following our grief? Like Lamentations is about following grief. Naming it, not evading it, but going into it. Our grief leads us to the kingdom.