where I'm at

Zizek, discussing Lacan's distinction between Symbolic and Imaginary, uses the image of chess pieces - on the imaginary, each piece is a shape - a rook or castle, a bishop, a queen, et cetera : all appealing to our imagination; on the symbolic, each piece is actually the operation of its rules: moving diagonally, first two steps then only one and taking only en passant or obliquely. 
I have observed most contentions in life devolve on the imaginary level - we call it a bishop, how dare you call it something else; or that a proper knight must be rearing and not just a head - or any number of differences. So it is that institutions lock people into the imaginary - this is god, this is tradition, this is ultimate, this is the only way a market can function - those people call it something else and we must fear them, etc. 
This is all well and good for institutions and systems : to keep people occupied fighting bogeymen and lashing themselves with guilt. But not for people dealing with trauma : the trauma that is immediate and violent ; as well as the trauma that is prolonged and gradually crippling of soul. No amount of revivals, pledges and confessions will allay it - which is why involvement in the imaginary is so frustrating : people double down on institutionally approved solutions that don't work (pray more, consume more, vote more this way or that, submit more, confess more, go to this conference, hear this speaker) - they have to blame someone for the unrelenting trauma of their speech being taken from them (and it can't be the institution, the system that sponsors their salvation - whether spiritual or economic). 
Trauma stands a chance of being healed, integrated, salved, directed into something creative on the symbolic level. Where we begin looking at the rules, as it were, of how our affects are shaped or distorted, what distorts them and what brings about wholeness, balance. We discover what buttons we have and perceive the toxic nature of people and systems that push them. 
We become less obsessed with what some piece of our life, our spirituality should look like (what creed, what church, what business, what party) and how it functions. What do I need to think clearly, to be at peace - how do those functions work for me? 
There's a lot invested in keeping people in a state, in a permanent boil - a lot to keep people locked in their traumas, focused on labels and villains - a kind of life seen as a cartoon. 
Perhaps it can't be done all at once. I've been 35 years in this state, but each day step back, if only for a while from the pledge all institution, from the adamant belief that everyone must have; each day a little freer and then perhaps a final break. The real thing is to understand how spirituality works for you and for a community - what is involving trauma and what is healing trauma. You don't need a flag or an emblem - you simply need a practice, a curiosity about the world and yourself and others.
That's pretty much where I'm at.